G’bye Mommy! G’bye, Abba!

Before the baby was born, we planned on doing a few last renovations to our house to make sure we could use some of the rooms we’d not been using.  A secondary goal in this, of course, was to let the wife move her study out of the third bedroom, and down to where my study, so that we could move the Monster into his own room.  The goal of this, of course, was to let the baby move into the nursery and out of the master bedroom. Continue reading

Choose Your Words Carefully

Verbal communication is one of those pesky things that we all have trouble learning at some point or another.

The Monster, as referenced frequently, handles his limited verbal communication by sticking to scripted phrases that he’s learned.  These, by and large, go to the format of “Can I have <X>, please?”  He’s figured out enough of English to realize that X can be just about anything. Continue reading

Big Brother Mode

There are breakthroughs and there are breakthroughs.

Yesterday, I spent a few hours alone with both kids – this is, as you can imagine, a bit of a challenge, when I’m coping with a very non-verbal child (an 11 month old infant) and a semi-non-verbal child (being the Monster at a very rambunctious 4 1/2 years).  Most of the time, it works out fairly well, since the baby is still exploring his environment and the Monster’s quite content to play around/with him. Continue reading

Friday is for Fighting

So the appointment is made – Friday at two in the afternoon.  That’s when my wife and I are going over to the Monster’s school to talk to his IEP coordinator (and likely the principal) about our issues with the program.

Now, let me be clear about something.  I’m not in a position where I think this program is horrifyingly letting my child down.  This is not about my coming in to demand massive, extraordinary changes in his program for the sake of how I envision it should be. Continue reading

Sitter Seeking

Of all the things I thought I’d be worrying about as my kids grew up, I thought finding a babysitter would be the least of them.

I was, of course, a babysitter myself when I was a teenager – it was a great way to make cash, and most nights the kids were asleep for the vast majority of the time that I was at their house. Continue reading

Spoiling for a Fight

I’m sure this isn’t news to anyone who has a child on an IEP – if you don’t make sure that they live up to the goals in the plan, they tend to go by the wayside.

Going a step further, bear in mind that we live in a major city with a record of having issues living up to the IEPs.  The biggest issue, really, is the lack of resources that the city has and their inability to really apply what they have effectively.  This is clearer still when you notice that our city is finally owning up to just how much deferred maintenance they have – to the point that several schools will be closing over the next few years, and most of the rest going under serious renovation. Continue reading

Lazy Sunday

Just a little slice of life from our house, perhaps.

Sundays are often our ‘down’ day – as you may have guessed, because I don’t update on Saturdays, we often have things going on.  (Yesterday, case in point: we had synagogue – wife’s choir was performing, and I had gabbai duties – then over to the grandparents’ to program their new phones, install a Slingbox and let the Monster run rampant for a bit.)  Sundays are the day where we usually have nothing at all to do, nothing pressing at least, unless we’ve specifically scheduled. Continue reading

For Me?

I’m going to call this serendipity.  I think it’s funny that Autism Speaks called this out this morning, but… it’s just timely.

Hanukkah starts tomorrow night, which means that we ran into the inevitable question last night from the Monster’s grandparents, when they were over watching the kids – what do the kids want for Hanukkah? Continue reading

Differences of Opinion

The Monster had another speech evaluation yesterday.

I find it interesting, as we go from therapist to therapist, at the differences in opinions as to his level of function.  (For a basic level of evaluation – they require a ‘greater than 25% deficiency’ in function here for services.)  He is currently just shy of 55 months, which means that he needs to be speaking at less than a 41 month level to be getting speech services in the schools. Continue reading